Wednesday, October 09, 2013

Being Public

Last week I connected with a new friend on Instagram and she asked me how I am able to be so public with my life. She said that she used to blog, but it sounded like she had a negative experience with a critical reader that had caused her to stop blogging. 

This is actually a question that I am asked frequently, and here's my answer: if you are not willing to share your story, then how is God going to get the glory?

I am not a private person, but it can still be scary to share. The other day I posted on Instagram about the fact that we were being presented to a birth mom, and I had to really think about it before I hit post. But I love adoption, and I feel strongly that one of the Lord's main purposes for my life is to advocate adoption, and so I decided that with this time around I was going to share it all. I think one of the things that keeps people from adopting is the fear of the unknown. So I want people to know. 

There are always going to be negative people that choose to share their negativity. For the most part, I have learned to ignore it. Or delete it. I try to let the truth that I know be louder. I am all about being authentic, which I think is really important in blogging. You have to show the good with the bad, the hard with the easy... people need to relate to you. But when you do that you open the door to the opinions of people who choose to judge you based on a snapshot of your life. 

When I first started my old blog {} I had a few haters. It really bothered me at first, and then I realized that it is just par for the course. Now instead of getting worked up, I delete comments and remind myself that the only thing that is true about me is what God says is true about me. 

Occasionally someone hits below the belt, and it hurts.  But then someone else thanks me for sharing my story, or tells me that something I wrote really hit home for them, or lets me know that they are considering adoption because of my family's experience. And I thank God for His sweet reminder and I keep going. 

Now let me just offer this disclaimer: I'm not an idiot. I realize it is 2013 and we are living in an era where privacy and identity need to be protected, especially for our children. I am ALWAYS mindful that there are creepers out there. I am careful when posting pictures of my children. I don't post naked babies. I don't post pictures of my kids standing in front of the sign that says what school they go to. There are some details of my life that I protect. But what I do put out there, I put out there in the hands of God. I know He cares even more about protecting my family than I do. And I trust Him to use my stories to bring glory to His name and purpose to my life. 

And you know what happens when you share???  Blessings are heaped over you that you could have otherwise missed out on. I cannot begin to tell you how much all the love and support that I get daily on Instagram has meant to me this year. It has been a rough year. And there have been many days that without the sweet encouragement from my followers and readers and friends... I would have completely lost my mind. The number of people that are praying for our family and this baby that is coming astounds me. Daily I get comments from people I don't know telling me that they are praying for me. That is an amazing, amazing feeling. To know that I am being lifted up from all over the country and even from other parts of the world is a huge blessing. One that I cherish. 

So that's my answer. That's why I chose to live publicly. Maybe that's why you chose to read what I write. And I thank you. 


  1. Oh man, I love this and I'm so behind you. I actually just wrote a post about how important it is to tell our stories. Because God uses our stories to change peoples' lives. My husband and I just started the adoption process (domestic newborn). We're hoping to start our home study in the next month! I've been following your journey here and on IG. Thank you for being so vulnerable and allowing God to use your story to change lives. :)


    1. Yay Hannah! I am so happy for you. That is fantastic news. Thanks for your comment! XOXO

  2. Love this sweet friend! I am so blessed to know you! Thank you for sharing your story!!